Girls Need To Realize: WRITTEN BY A GUY

Many a female has asked herself the question, "What makes a man fall in love?"
By allowing your inner romantic to thrive you become more open to making a man fall in love. I've helped many a friend bring out her natural instincts that are so often suppressed due to pressures of society. I say to heck with all that, love is grand and there is nothing wrong with having your cake and eating it! Go ahead learn to let your girlish ways flow naturally and enjoy the falling in love process.

Put Him to Work - Ask him to fix, open or move something for you in order to bond with him. This is more of the same on the nurturing topic.

Ask Him - Ask his opinion about oh anything asking him lets him know you find him smart and value his knowledge finding him useful and helpful.

Play Dress Up - Soft, frilly and girly stuff flips a switch in a mans brain and triggers an intense response that says, wow female, nice! Men are amazed and in awe of the soft and pretty side of women. For instance, they are often awe struck with the fact that we can create life. Celebrate your differences and wow him with a frilly apron while you cook and thingsof the such. This type of things screams "I'm happy to be a chic" and men find this magical.

Wear His clothes - Anytime you wear a mans clothes it tells him you want to be near him and take comfort and pleasure being near him. Guys take great pleasure in your show of trust and preference in them over other men.

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Let Him Be - Guys need to know that once they become involved with you their lives can remain the same. It's important to show him you have no plans to change him or make him better. So, make sure the guy you choose is the guy you want. Men love their freedom, need to hang with their friends and have guy time in the man cave. If you’re a woman who doesn’t interfere with this he’s far more likely tofall in love with you.

Switch Things Up - Show the many sides of your happy to be a chic chic, the t-shirt and jeans with hair in a pony tail gal and the up do librarian type etc. Men love to see changes in your appearance. It keeps the allure and exciting wow girl factor burning. Men love all the versatile physical differences and are fascinated with it.

Give Him Space - Men place women on a pedestal, it’s therefore in your best interest to keep private things private. Leave as much to the imagination as possible. Don’t spoil the magic of your mystery. For example keep your grooming rituals and otherfemale issues private. A man doesn’t want to know of such things, again leave as much to the imagination as possible. Allow him his own space to do the same. PLUS, Don’t take over his space or get rid of his things. In time he will come to these decisions on his own as you merge your things. Make room for his taste and embrace it.

What I know is this, men love us for our differences and adore all the mysteries of being a female. Celebrate and honor those differences with a kind and loving heart and you will find amazing and boundless love. There is nothing better than when a man loves a woman.

• Prepare yourself for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won't work. Also prepare yourself for some let downs along the way. It may take a few dates before you find someone that you have a connection with.
• Start taking care of yourself. Begin a routine of looking your best. Join a gym, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled, and begin a new schedule of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though this will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself. Most people would prefer to date someone who was healthy and active, rather than dating a couch potato.
• If you can afford it, go shopping and treat yourself to some new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those old clothes that do not flatter your shape or show off your personality. If you don’t have the funds for a whole new look, ask a friend to help you go through your wardrobe and get rid of everything that doesn’t flatter your shape or colouring.
• Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within a certain time-frame? If you do, then approach dating and finding your partner accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously, then ask yourself some honest questions as to why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then you need to be honest with those you hope to date.
• Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in the ‘burbs’ is not where you will find an eligible partner.
• Choose people you have a realistic chance of dating. Your dating is based on the whole package that you present including your personality. If you’re looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared to live up to their expectations as well. It’s a two way street. That doesn’t mean that you have to be the most attractive, however you will need to make an effort with your overall look. After all, the reason why you want to date ‘eye candy’ is because of their appearance.
• Check out the area where you live, and target where you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners, especially the kind of partner you are looking for. Its a cliché, but you will not meet people by staying at home.
• Occasionally, take time off from dating if you feel it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Sometime its best to have a break, re-charge your batteries and then start again.
• Dating is all about meeting people, socializing and spending time in the company of interesting individuals who may or may not turn out to be ‘the one’. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
• Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and the thrill of the chase when dating. Do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress. The longer the chase the more likely that love may blossom. Spend time getting to know each other. If you have sex too early there is little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.

Dating Tips For Him

• Look your best. Make sure you have some decent clothes and shoes. Get clothes that fit you, suit you and are contemporary. Make sure you have a wardrobe of inter-changeable outfits. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of her?
• Get your hygiene and styling in order. Make an appointment with the barber and sort out your hair, get a decent style if possible. If you don't have much hair, either get your head shaved or something you can handle. Bald heads are in fashion and can look quite ‘hot’. Purchase a good quality cologne and a grooming kit. Men are so often criticized for smelling bad. There is nothing better than a man who smells great. Get into a regular showering routine and smell good always. Women appreciate it.
• Sort out your job if you have one. Women want a man who has some ambition and drive in life. Any job is better than none. If you have a job but are not happy with it, make a change, don’t just whinge about it. You don’t have to earn large sums of money, however you do need to be happy and proud about what you do for a living. If a woman can see that you love your job, then you will earn her respect and admiration.
• Make sure you are up to date with current affairs, watch the news and read quality papers. Women do not appreciate stupidity and laziness in men. Current affairs are important in showing that you know what’s going on with the rest of the world. She most likely will not be interested in knowing how many premierships your favourite football club has won, however she will be interested if you are able to speak to her about various humanitarian activities that are taking place. If you have travelled, then this will help tremendously, if you don't have plans to travel, start making some. Being able and willing to sort out vacations is essential in the grand scheme of things.
• Drinking in the bar 5 nights a week is not a positive exercise. It will not win any fair princess's heart. There is more to life than drinking. Taking a lady out for a drink is great, however you never want to give her the impression that you live there, this will get you nowhere fast.
• You can love your sport, however if this has become a religion for you, you may have a problem. As the saying goes ‘everything in moderation’. If you are serious about dating, then ramming sports down your date's throat will put them off in record time. Sport to the inexperienced or uninterested is completely boring and shows a woman you have limited mental capacity and also a lack of thought, creativity or inspiration. Millions of women love sport too, but don't make your passion into a one-sided one.
• DO NOT expect sex on a first date. If all you are after is sex, then you are in the wrong ‘zone’ to start with. Dating is not about sex; it’s about getting to know someone. A man who is patient is far sexier than one who wants to rush in. Believe it or not, you are capable of waiting for the right woman so do it instead of thinking with your private parts.
• Show her you have manners, are courtesy and that chivalry still exists. A woman likes to be treated well and particularly with respect. Stop the coarse language and swear words, the rudeness and the laziness. Know how to behaviour at social functions, what cutlery to use at restaurants, and know something about fashion, jewellery and flowers. Hold the door open for her, let her go first and help her with her seat. Listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. Show her respect and manners at every step and you won’t go wrong. No matter how much independence woman have gained over the years, they still want a knight in shining armour (good manners and chivalry). No woman longs for a loudmouth, beer-swilling slob.
• Don’t turn the date into a one sided conversation. You need to keep your date interested, so you will need to stop talking and start listening. She will bore of you quickly if it’s all about me, me, me, me. She will want to talk about herself too. Listen to what she tells you about herself and remember them. Women love to chat so you need to learn to listen. If you remember things she has told you, it will impress her immensely and you will have more success in securing another date.
• GIVE UP SMOKING NOW.
• Lean to dance. Women love to dance and dancing is a physical contact sport (or can be). It is also romantic and sexy. If you stay seated while she is on the dance floor then you may as well not exist, as woman love to dance. Take some dance lessons if you need to. It’s all about rhythm and confidence. You don't need to be Travolta however you do need to show her that you are prepared to have a go.
• Women still believe in old fashioned courting and romance. They want to feel special all the time, not just some of the time. Tell her how much you appreciate her, how good she looks etc. Women like surprises and small tokens of appreciation. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on expensive gifts; candle lit dinner (you do the cooking), run her a bubble bath, give her a small bouquet of flowers will go a long way.
• Always be yourself. No point in trying to be something your not. You can only keep this charade up for so long before your start to show your true colours.
• When you are out on a date, always offer to pay. Let her have the option of graciously accepting or paying for herself. If she is interested in you, she will graciously accept and make the offer to pay next time (meaning she is looking forward to seeing you again). An honest woman will pay for herself if she feels there isn’t a connect or chemistry between you.

Dating Tips For Her

• Dating tips for women
• Always look gorgeous, whatever your income. Great hair and some lipstick and wearing rags will still turn his head. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.
• Never reveal any more information you have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
• Keep dates short but your men interested. Less is always more.
• Try and stay in shape and eat healthily. You may want to join a gym, however a brisk daily walk is just as good. The idea is to look and feel great about yourself. Mr. Right will love your body as much as your mind. Staying in shape does not mean losing weight until you look like a stick figure. It’s a known fact that men love women with curves.
• When you’re on a date, always offer to pay for yourself. If he is truly interested in you, he will offer to pay to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
• Make him aware that old fashioned courting and romance still exists. Let him know that you expect to feel special all the time, not just some of the time. He does not have to spend a lot of money on expensive gifts, small gestures like running a bubble bath, cooking you dinner will go a long way. If he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.
• NEVER EVER sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything. Have you ever wondered why you never heard from a guy after sleeping with him on the first couple of dates …. that’s because you made it too easy.
• It is a lady's prerogative to turn up late. Keep him waiting a few minutes, never turn up early.
• Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
• If he is available Wednesday, you are available Friday.
• Do not give up your weekend shopping trips with your girlfriends for a date.
• Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss.
• Never ever talk about previous boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The number of ex boyfriends is not relevant.
• Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. Looks can be deceptive.
• If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity run, and run fast.
• If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, move on.
• Never ever come across as too available or too desperate, he will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing remember.
• If the guy in the corner is gorgeous go and get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
• Always remember you are a woman and a lady. No man wants a foul mouthed ‘cow’.
• If you want children, don't mention it on the first few dates.
• Don’t expect him to pay. Always offer to pay for yourself. If you are not interested in seeing him again then have the decency and pay for yourself.
• Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.
• Always remain cool and sophisticated.

Flirting Tips

THE GOALS OF FLIRTING:

THE 7 SECRETS TO SUCCESSFUL FLIRTING

1. Vocalize your enjoyment! Listening to a woman bellow in ecstasy “I’m … COOOOOOOMING!” is as good, if not better, than the sex itself.
2.  ... but don’t forget that other people in house/apartment nearby will hear you, especially if he is awkward about that sort of thing.
3. NO. TEETH. (What are you, eighteen? You should know that by now, really.)
4. Offering to let him come on your face will make his friggin‘ day. If that’s too porn-y for you, let him come on your chest instead.
5. That slow, gentle, tender sex you’re having? It’s probably for your benefit, not his. “Guys love the express train 90 percent of the time, so get off the local!” Maybe just be clear that there should be a fast sex/slow sex balance in the relationship, lest he think you like the jackhammering as much as he does.
6. Men don’t only love penis massages—they love back and shoulder massages, too. Making him come then rolling him over and mounting his butt to administer a back massage is a lovely way to bring on A Post-Coital Man Nap.
7. Wait to hop in the shower and wash all that dirty, dirty sex off. “Come back to bed after you’re done warding off a UTI in the loo when we’re finished—there’s nothing like savoring the moment.” Aww, they get lonely when we leave them in bed by themselves!
8. Boys have nipples, too, and sometimes, they can be very sensitive. His junk isn’t the only place he wants you to kiss!
9. Assume your guy’s anus is feeling neglected, too. “Don’t forget that some guys like a pinkie in the ass.” He just might be too embarrassed to ask for it, so let your fingers wander and see what happens.
10. Get out of the bedroom. “Women forget to have sex anywhere other than in bed without guidance.” I think this means he likes to do it in the shower?

You can Impress your girlfriend by doing these small things for her!

 You do not have to spend money like water to impress a girlfriend. Just by doing little romantic things you can easily make her happy. Here are some ideas to do just that.

1. Write her a love letter and present it to her in a romantic way- Write a letter to her explaining what she means to you. Take your time as you do it. If needed spend a whole month writing and editing. Only then you will be able to create a letter that looks refined and romantic. Give it to her in a heart shaped box filled with artificial rose petals. If you are wondering where to get these items, check out your local craft stores. They usually carry boxes of all shapes and also packets of loose petals. Good news is that they are usually under $6.
2. Give her a rose- Notice that a whole flower bouquet is not mentioned here. Actually nothing makes a girl happy than one single red rose, for it is beautiful, romantic and holds many deep meanings.  You will not believe, but this one rose will be kept inside her book for a long time as your token of love.
3. Make her a birthday cake- This might seem difficult, but you can still do it even if you do not know how to cook. Just use cake mix found in local grocery stores. Bake your cake, cover it with her favorite cream or icing and write a birthday wish along with her name on it. On seeing it, she will not only blush, but will also feel the love you have poured on it.
4. Make your kisses for her special- Normal kissing is done always, but sometimes try making out with her while the slow romantic music is on. This will move her deeply and you too will see how the atmosphere has suddenly become very beautiful.
5.  Give her a CD filled with love songs dedicated to her- Research on your favorite songs. Look into your playlists and then pick the love songs so you can make a CD of them to give her. Once you are done making this CD put it in a case along with a small letter explaining why these songs are meant for her only.

Answer with yes or no and check how much you love someone